More about the Faster EFT system
We don’t experience and interact with the world as it is, we experience and interact with the world as we perceive it to be.
None of us see or experience the world in quite the same way; this is one of the reasons others often can’t see why a particular person or situation is causing us so much upset or distress. We each ‘filter’ our world and the way we experience it according to our perceptions and beliefs. Many of these beliefs operate outside of our conscious awareness, and were often learned when we were very young, from our care-givers, family and the environment into which we were born.
You may be familiar with the term ‘self-limiting belief’ – which pretty much all of us have to a greater or lesser degree. Often-times people seeking counselling, therapy or coaching will at least in part want to address these self-limiting beliefs, or issues arising from these.
In Faster EFT we believe that in order to have a belief, you must have ‘proofs’ (memories) and emotions to support it.
Taking the self-limiting belief ‘I’m stupid’, for example, Faster EFT asks us to ‘notice how you know’. So you might have:
* a memory of your father telling you you were ‘too stupid to get it’ when he tried to help you with your homework but could not explain it in a way that helped you to understand;
* a memory of your teacher humiliating you in year four, telling you you were stupid in front of the class;
* you might remember not doing as well as predicted in your GCSE’s, and not being able to go on to do A levels;
* you might feel a sinking sensation in your stomach and a heaviness across your chest when faced with a situation you fear you may not be up to.
Using ‘tapping’ and sometimes other techniques, with Faster EFT we can go back to the memory of your father, clear all of the negative emotions you feel when you think of this, so that there is no sadness, anger, resentment etc. when you think of this memory, and then we ‘flip’ it so it becomes positive. We can do this in a number of ways – often your unconscious mind does this for you without you needing to actively do anything.
We can do this with each memory you have that supports the ‘I am stupid’ belief, and then move on to clear any emotions and sensations you experience in your body when you feel or think about being stupid, even if you don’t have a memory these seem to relate to.
If you begin from a place of having a belief, but can’t think where this came from, we just ‘notice how you know’. Something will be telling you you have this belief; with nothing to support it the belief would not exist. We begin with what you have – even just a vague sense – and tap on that. Your unconscious mind then tends to come up with other references and memories, and we can clear these also.
If you have a lot of negative memories supporting a belief, it will probably not be necessary to address each and every one of them as there will be a ‘generalising’ effect (where the memories that have been changed effect the emotions attached to the remaining memories).
To continue with the example from above, we then ‘future pace’ – which means we think about how and who you will be without the old ‘I’m stupid’ belief. Your unconscious mind doesn’t differentiate between a memory that actually happened, and a memory or ‘vision’ that you have created, especially when you experience the created memory with all of your senses, in a ‘fully technicolour’ way.
Think about this for a moment, as you may find yourself resistant to this fact. Many of us share very different ‘memories’ of the same event or events with friends or family members. An example from my own family is my brother remembering our father being the person who always took him to play football for a local team as a child; my mother remembers that she was the one who always took him, with our father only occasionally stepping in, and my father and I have no memory of anyone taking him at all!
Numerous scientific experiments have shown that our memories are not reliable (see Elizabeth Loftus for example), and Courts are increasingly aware that eye witness testimony of a crime is not reliable evidence.
Once we have established a belief, we will often predict or imagine a coming event or outcome based upon the belief we hold. Sticking with our ‘I am stupid’ example, prior to a job interview we might begin to worry that we will be asked questions we can’t answer, we will picture ourselves sitting in front of the interviewer and ‘going blank’; not knowing how to respond. We will imagine them exchanging glances, think of them realising that we are stupid, hear how the tone of their voice changes as they do, picture them talking about us once we have left the interview – saying what a waste of time it was for them to have seen us and that someone else must have written the application form for us. As we imagine these things we will experience emotions and sensations in our bodies, and then picture ourselves feeling the same way in the interview. As we are worried that this is what will happen, we are likely to keep re-playing and ‘rehearsing’ the interview in this way. These visualisations act like memories, and become a resource for our unconscious minds; so when we are faced with an interview and need a reference for ‘how to’ be, we automatically and unconsciously access these ‘memories’ and behave in the ways we have repeatedly imagined and dreaded.
In Faster EFT we make use of this process in a positive way. After clearing out all of the negative emotions, and flipping the memories so that they become positive, we ‘future pace’ by visualising how we will be in an interview (for example) when we are calm and confident, picturing ourselves giving good comprehensive answers to the questions we are asked, and seeing the smiles and nods on the faces of the interviewers. We have a number of techniques to help us to achieve this, including ‘borrowing’ the resources we will need from ourselves in a different memory, when we did experience the feelings we now need, or from another person who we believe has these resources. We create a clear vision of ourselves as we would like to be, and if we experience any resistance to this, we can again use tapping to address and clear it. If we then rehearse and reinforce this positive vision, we create a new resource, a new ‘how to’ for our unconscious mind to draw upon in our next interview. And obviously this applies to any and all sorts of future experiences.
Another Faster EFT belief is that whatever ‘problem’ we are experiencing, we are responsible for creating and manifesting this ourselves. Although we may experience an issue, disease or illness as a ‘problem’, we are actually doing something correctly (unconsciously) inside of ourselves in order to produce and maintain it.
This is another belief you may find it difficult to accept; you may even find yourself feeling angry or frustrated that anyone could suggest this – after all, who would want to make themselves ill, or depressed, or anxious to the point of having panic attacks, or….
In Faster EFT we don’t see the mind and body as two separate independent systems; they are one system, and each influences and impacts upon the other. There is increasing acceptance of this fact amongst the medical profession, with a number of illnesses or disorder now being classed as ‘psychosomatic’; this means that, whilst there are very real physical symptoms these originate from mental or emotional causes. Examples of psychosomatic illnesses currently being seen are panic attacks, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, chronic pain, anxiety disorders, depression, multiple chemical sensitivity, environmental illness and so on.
If you have been diagnosed with one of the above mentioned conditions I am not suggesting that you have ‘brought this on yourself’, and I am not doubting you probably wish you did not have it, and have done all you can to try to rid yourself of it. But just let yourself consider for a moment or two the changes that a different point of view could bring. Instead of thinking (for example) ‘I suffer from anxiety’ try thinking ‘I practice anxiety’ or even ‘I practice anxiety, and I’ve got really good at it’. If you think back to the previous example of the ‘I am stupid’ belief and the job interview, remember how I suggested we tend to practice our fears and worries over and over again in our minds, elaborating and expanding upon them? If you ‘suffer from’ anxiety, the chances are that you have spent a lot of time worrying about and anticipating the symptoms – the racing heart, shallow breathing, sweating palms, and so on; you have probably run through various scenarios in your mind, anticipating all of the things that could go wrong and imagining how you and your anxiety will react when something does. You may even have spent time dreading having a panic attack, and imagining how it will be when you do; picturing your heart racing until you collapse with a heart attack, and you may even have pictured and imagined how it will be for your daughter waiting for you at the school gates when you don’t arrive to collect her, or finding you collapsed and having to call an ambulance…and so on. You may even have imagined yourself dying, and put yourself in the shoes of your nearest and dearest, imagining when and how they will hear the news, what they will feel, how they will act; what your funeral will be like….and so on, and so on. All of these fears and imaginings are providing your mind with more and more information and resources – more details on ‘how to’ – so you can get even better at producing anxiety. Once someone has diagnosed you as suffering from anxiety, you may have been given an information leaflet, or googled ‘anxiety’, taken books out of the library, or joined a support group. All of these things provide your unconscious mind with an ever-increasing number of reasons and resources for producing anxiety in a bigger and better way. But if you were to consider accepting – or even just acting ‘as though’ – anxiety (or your own diagnosis) was something you practiced, just the change in terminology could make you feel a little more empowered. Could that get rid of your anxiety? Unlikely, I would say; very unlikely. But it could leave you feeling as though it might be possible to change, to learn how to practice something different, in a way that might not be possible if you ‘suffered from’ anxiety. So, what else could you do? You could adopt a Faster EFT approach, and ask yourself ‘how do I know I have this problem’. Notice you are not asking yourself ‘why do I have this problem?’, but ‘how do I know I have this problem’? And your unconscious (and conscious) mind will give you answers; you will probably end up with a long list of memories of different times you felt anxious or experienced anxiety attacks, of others confirming for you that you do indeed ‘suffer’ from anxiety, of GP visits, maybe ambulance call outs…and so on. And you will also end up with a list of physical sensations and experiences. Then by using Faster EFT tapping you can begin to address and change all of these memories and sensations; for some people this can happen very quickly, but for others it can take months of regular tapping (see below for more about this), and this isn’t necessarily an easy journey. But neither is the alternative, of not trying in the first place, or not sustaining your effort, and continuing to practice anxiety….or whatever you have chosen to practice.
A number of people do experience rapid change using Faster EFT, but for others the process can be much slower. We are all different, and there are a number of different reasons for why this is the case. One relates to the way in which we process and hold our memories within us – and this relates to which of our ‘sensory modalites’ we tend to favour.
We have five different senses, through which we experience the world – sight, sound, kinaesthetic (feelings and sensations) olfactory (smell) and gustatory (taste). The last three tend to be grouped together as kinaesthetic.
Around 60% of the population rely most strongly on their sense of vision, and they will have strong and clear visual memories; these may be still pictures like a photograph, or may be moving like a movie or film (they will also vary in terms of colour, brightness, location in space, and so on).
Approximately 20% of the population tend to favour their auditory processes, and when they access a memory they will first and foremost be aware of sounds and voices – either their own or others. The remainder of the population will be kinaesthetic, and will primarily be aware of the emotions and sensations in their body when they access memories.
If you think of a positive memory now, you should be able to tell which of the senses is the primary one for you. As a rough guide, individuals who are ‘visual’ are likely to clear memories and make changes more quickly than those who are ‘auditory’ or ‘kinaesthetic’ – but this will not always be the case.